Saturday, January 22, 2011


Tristan turns 18 today. 18! How does something like this happen?

Today he is spending the first of what he hopes to be many weekends at the New England School of Metal work. He is taking a blacksmithing class to make some of the tools he will need to use while smithing. He has been busy writing an essay and filling out scholarship applications to the school so he can perfect his skills. He is looking at some community colleges so he can get welding certified. He is in the process of getting his GED so he can fulfill the welding goal. He also wants to take a metal sculpture class at the Maine College of Art.

When he gets back we will go downtown to get him registered to vote and get him registered for selective service. We waited for him to get his license until he was 18. So this week he also needs to take his permit test.

This boy is going places. I could not be prouder.

There were times during our homeschool adventure that I was not sure if it would all fall into place. He is a quiet kid. His math skills could be stronger. On the other hand when he seizes upon something he wants to learn he tries to learn everything there is to know about it. To see him when he is at work at the forge and to see how his skill has grown over the last year, I am confident that he will do okay with whatever he wants to do.

Having said all this I have to share a story...

This weekend away from home is the first weekend where he is responsible for himself for the complete 4 days. He has gone away to camp and stuff but that was with adult supervision. The school has a dorm with a kitchen so he can prepare his own meals. So he had to write a grocery list for himself and go shopping for what he needed. I paid for it but I thought I would leave it up to him. I did offer guidance in terms of thinking about what he should have on his list. Stuff like oh, I don't know ...vegetables, easy to prepare meals, since it would probably just have a small kitchen and he would be sharing it with his classmates. So the other day we head to the grocery store. He picks up a small basket and starts wandering around the store. I catch glimpses of him reading labels, putting things in his basket. We meet in the dairy section where I find that his basket has a fair assortment of healthy food. But when I asked what sort of green vegetable he got he showed me some celery;) When I pointed out that although it is green I was not sure if I was sufficiently green enough to constitute a green vegetable.

His response, " Green is green"

Okay, so, now I know that in future care packages that I send him he will require some kale:)

7 comments:

Lamb said...

My second oldest son turned 30 yesterday! 30!!! How did he get that old so fast? I mean, *I* haven't aged!!! Can I possibly be old enough to have a 30 year old son?!?

Wendy said...

Oh my, the time goes so fast! It sounds, though, that you've raised a great young man. It must be a good feeling to send him off on this little adventure with such confidence in his abilities!

Ellen said...

Happy Birthday to Tristan! Sounds like you've raised a wonderful son!

Deus Ex Machina said...

Fleecenik, congratulations to you both. Wendy and I have found that the difficult part is allowing them to make their own choices (often also know as mistakes) without chiming in. It is wonderful when you start to see the "wheels start turning."

Robj98168 said...

Happt Birthday Tristan!

innstitches said...

Like Lamb, my children are both in their 30's and I don't know where the time has gone...I always tell people with little ones, enjoy them while they are small, you will wake up one day and they will be going off into the world without you holding their hands...Happy 18th to your son...

Matt and Jess said...

That's awesome. My hubby is considering doing welding as well because a lot of the woodworking students in his classes are also doing metalwork to coordinate with their woodwork. I think it sounds rewarding.